Summary Lesson - 23
Self Esteem, rights & Responsibilities

SELF ESTEEM is -

• your own image in your eyes.
• what you think about yourself.

Every individual is unique and has strengths and weaknesses. Awake and recognize your strengths. Have a positive self esteem about yourself.

Positive Self Esteem leads to Self confidence - to do any thing or everything you want to do.

Signs Of Low Self Esteem:

• Self depreciating statements.
• Negative self critical dialogue.
• Feeling inferior / inadequate.
• Comparing yourself with others.
• Giving negative mental messages (I am always making mistakes).
• Feeling uncomfortable in social situations and with friends.
• Need for approval -
• Seeking recognition from others.
• Depending on other’s opinion.
• Expecting mercy / sympathy to feel good.

Signs Of High Self Esteem:

• Proactive / positive attitude.
• Not scared of making mistakes.
• Ready to take risks.
• Focusing on your strengths.
• Beliefs and attitudes -

• You need not be perfect.
• Do not compare with others-you are unique.

Self Esteem leads to Assertiveness – the purpose is to:

• Maintain respect for self and other’s needs and rights.
• Keep communication lines open.
• Achieve goals.
• Engage and develop human relationship.

Balance Your Rights and Rights Of Others:

If you only think of your rights you are aggressive.

If you think of only others’ rights you are nonassertive.

Assertiveness - the ability to express your thoughts and feelings in a way that clearly states your needs and keeps the lines of communication open with the other.

Be assertive in following situations:

• When you want/ do not want something
• When you are hurt
• When you are happy / angry
• When you want to give feedback
• In the face of criticism
• When you want to negotiate

REMEMBER: 

THOUGHTS ACTIONS HABITS CHARACTER PERSONALITY THE NEW SUCCESSFUL YOU.

RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES -

Every human has certain rights and along with the rights come responsibilities .

Right: To Be Treated With Respect.

Responsibility: To Respect The Rights Of Others.

Right: To Express Opinions And Feelings.

Responsibility: To Welcome The Opinions And Feelings Of Others.

Right: To Set Your Goals.

Responsibility: Help Others To Work To Their Goals And Objectives.

Right: To Refuse A Request Or Say ‘No’.

Responsibility : To Encourage Others To Use Their Time The Way That They Want.

Right: To Ask For What I Want.

Responsibility: To Encourage Others To Fulfill Their Needs.

Right: To Make Mistakes.

Responsibility: To Help Others Learn Through Their Mistakes So That They Can Grow.

Right: To Get What I Pay For.

Responsibility: To Give Best Value And Service For The Money And Rewards I Receive From Others.

Right: To Change My Mind.

Responsibility: To Help Others Reach Conclusions About Their Experiences Of The World.

Right: To Decide Whether Or Not To Assert Myself.

Responsibility: To Allow Others The Freedom To Choose How They Behave.

QUOTES:

• A 'No' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'Yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble. (Mahatma Gandhi )
• Give a liitle more than what is expected from you.
• The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.
• The present is the future you envisioned for yourself long ago.
• No One Is Useless. No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another. (Charles Dickens)
• Move away from ‘I’ to ‘We’ to ‘US’.